Very true it doesn't go with the DB'ing method of 180's or GAL's.
If you don't want to DB why are you here.
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but I have always been unconventional.
You aren't being unconventional, you are doing exactly what your H did. He ran to someone to make himself feel better and you did the same thing. It is just you don't like that he did it.
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there has to be more than one answer to a question...more than one possibility.
Have you told the man with whom you are having this sexual relationship why you are doing it? Have you told him you need male companionship and don't know how to be alone now that your H has left you? Have you told this man that you started this sexual relationship before you knew your H started his?
Ok, we know the answers to these questions. You already said so. Does your unconventional answers include dishonesty. We know you haven't told this man. Why? Because if he is a decent man, he would run away from you. You know this. We know this.
This is the time to stand up and hold yourself accountable to a higher standard. If not, you are no better than the husband who left you. Perhaps we have a glimpse into the reason he left you.
