I don't think I was trying to generalise to all MLCers, just making the observation that for many men [and women] love doesn't die as easily and conveniently as either party sometmes would like.
Probably in marriages contracted early and for short periods that love doesn't establish in all cases, but for people married a long time, I suspect that most remain somewhat in love. Where men and women may be different though is that I think a man can be in love with one woman and sleeping with another more easily than most women can. When women have sex they tend to love. Obviously not invariable, and for many men fidelity maters hugely.
I am not talking about apologies from beyond the grave either! It was just that a death brought it all to light. Love is a funny business! And we are all privileged to have experienced it
