i was mad because he was being aggressive and called my getting mad the last time "stupid" and told my daughter to tell me (which to me, is just putting her in the middle)
forget it
before, i'd come home and oftentimes h'd be sleeping on the couch when I got home and i'd get mad cuz he wasn't doing stuff and I was doing stuff and it wasn't fair. that mom's plight or whatever... oh, and also my concerns about H taking care of himself... standard co-dependency fare...
last time i got mad at H for sleeping, H said he'd do AB and C, instead he fell asleep. he had a headache, he didn't tell me about, he just went to sleep. no big, except that he said he'd do A B and C, and now it was getting late and A B and C hadn't been planned for otherwise and it just left me in a bind
it happens a lot
i guess i just have to realize H needs more sleep than me, gets sick more often than me and feels like he shouldn't have to tell me WHY he's sleeping... I asked H to be communicative, just so that I wouldn't be left in a bind in the future...
So, that's communication, at least. I suppose I should be happy.
He said it once, no prob.
Twice, three, four times, with a reminder from the daughter...
am I deaf?
Listen, this is WHY I WAS mad. I'm not anymore. We worked it out. We both got heard...
