i'm clueless....

[Dom R]

PS: if you do decide to confront him with the "which is more important; prove it!" question, and IF he comes along with you...
dont expect him to be attentive and cooperative right away.

Sadly, he's probably going to be sulky, and initially not very cooperative about things. (basically, like a little boy who you've just taken away his "candy" from ) So you'll need to mentally be prepared for that, if it happens.
I would suggest that you give him a bit of time to adjust from the sulk while you talk, and then once he settles down a bit, then talk about the really important stuff.


No, you "shouldnt have to" go through all this. but in life you gotta deal with what you've got, not what you "should have", right?



ALso: I think that you absolutely have to drop any kind of pressure on him vs your daughter.
You have no influence on him! Bugging him about it, doesnt help, and only makes your relationship with him worse.

if you really want to help your daughter... FIRST, you have to make your relationship with your H strong. Strong enough that he finally gives a damn about what you think and say is important.

Then, and only then, could it do some good to talk to him about how he is treating your daughter.