Thanks RMG - I agree that I sometimes ask myself why would/do I even want her back after all she has done and all I have found out (I was very good at snooping)? She essentially lives with OM now. However, I keep coming back to the reasoning that this is not my W, but rather an alien.
JMC,
I am sorry.... I do NOT buy the "alien" BS...... These people are acting based on their beliefs, moral and values..... You either are one who cheats on your spouse or you do not....
I do not believe a "good Christian" person goes into MLC and f#c%s around and/or gets a D...... A "good Christian" would realize he/she has issues and needs help including counseling.... I am sure many of these would be tempted to act out.... However, they would realize it is wrong based on their marriage commitment to God, their spouse and their family.....
To use the "alien" is just living in denial... That person is choosing to act that way.... That IS who they REALLY are.... No one is forcing them to act in any way......
I just cannot see any mentally sane person thinking it is okay for their spouse to f$c% around.... and then come back...... Where are the consequences? When (not if) does it happen again? Do you get a free pass to f$c% around when you feel like it?
Just my thoughts....
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
