I think we are in a rut

[Starshyne]

I recently told my H that I don't like the new person he has became. I told him that I understand that he is working on his outside (losing weight, hair cuts and colors, tanning etc) but his inside has turned ugly and in the the big picture has made him an ugly person. I think telling him that really shocked him, but he understood what I was saying.

I did not mean that you needed to wait 5 years! My goodness that is too much. Your parents must really be having a difficult time being in limo like that.

However....if you need to wait another month to gather your thoughts and to mentally prepare to talk to him, then that is okay.