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[KarenMarieS]

Geeze Friend
sorry about your ex, was he really healthy while you were married? Thats scary. Does he take BP pills? I know those effect your liver--- or maybe its your kidneys. Hmmm I know I get a blood test every year to check since I take BP, see I'm no nurse lol

[ALL6785]

Funny how many women who have been divorced don't want anything to do with marriage. Seems more so then amoung men. Not that I have taken a poll or anything but I know a LOT of guys who have gone ahead and gotten remarried.

Just my two cents, I've seen this topic come up before and maybe it's just my part of the country with life being cold and harsh certain times of the year but in my experience it's women that are in a hurry to get involved in a serious relationship and looking to get remarried. I know of several women that are tired of being alone and having to do everything by themselves. I have two good friends that got divorced about the same time I did and like me they are in no hurry whatsoever to get involved in a serious relationship or get remarried. So maybe it's all just a matter of perspective. Personally, I feel that I have a lot of work to do before I'm ready to settle down with someone and I don't see marriage as an option in my near future. For what it's worth...

Good Morning Karen.

I hope all is sunny and well with you.

[cat03]

I'm from South America, lol, that's as much as i'm going to post online lol

[KarenMarieS]

'nuff said cat lol thank you!


Hey All
Your right its totally an individual choice and prob past experience- I have noticed throughout my life that when us chicks are in our 20s we are big on getting married! We want the princess wedding and babies and it all ( most of us, not all) but the second time around when we have raised those kids and for some of us, raised H too lol , there is no hurry

I think w/ me, my ex was soooo very independent, emotionally as well, so I never felt I was taking care of him, I wanted to but he just didnt swing that way. So maybe in a way, I kinda want to this time around TO A DEGREE lol
B is independent too but loves to be pampered and can pamper like ex never did. A nice change for this girl.

Hey, All, do any snorkeling lately? LOL

[ALL6785]

Hey Karen,
Actually it’s been pretty warm lately and we are getting a little short on “water”. Ha!

I thought some more about the “who wants to get married “topic. I don’t typically run into other guys and discuss what they are looking for in a relationship… and I for sure don’t ask them if they are interested in getting married. Ha! On the other hand if I meet a single women the topic is much more likely to come up especially if there seems to be some potential interest. So I’m thinking that could also be the case with you ladies. Is it possible you aren’t actively looking to see how many single women are interested in getting married?????

[BethM]

Ok ALL simmer down............

This is the way I see (you know that my take on it is right). There is no 1 size fits all, but I have to tell you that women are much needier when it comes to finding a man after they've been a LBS. I think that women start looking and even start with the online dating much sooner than men in order to try to cover the wound. On the other hand, I believe that when guys meet someone they fall harder.

Oh come on. We see this everyday on the board.

DISCLAIMER:I'm not saying that this is an absolute but in lots of cases it does seem to ring true.

[fig]

concurring

that is all...

now I am running away!!!

[KarenMarieS]

is much more likely to come up

No pun?

I was talking to B about this, he thought maybe it could be if you come from different types of M, I seriously loved being married, I never said i wouldnt do it again, well ok maybe once after the speech, but realized I liked it, if and when the right one came along, They would have to really pass some strict tests tho!
In my 20s I wanted someone who would be a good dad, provider , partner, tall , dark and handsome. NOW its so different I wanted an equal partner, he has to want to keep some of his own life ( his hobbies, buddys) and understand I would want mine too- girl time. Have his own "things" and be willing to somehow bring that together, Of course smart, funny, loving, yada yada. Some different, some the same

[BethM]

HAHAHA......

I just think that we women all think about another relationship while we're still in shock, especially if we've been in a longterm marriage. Once we start to heal and get our wits about us, we settle down and see things more realistically.

[ALL6785]

Hey Bethie,
I'm calm, and actually I think you are correct, right after the D it hits hard, I was so lonley, I wanted to find someone so bad. Now that I'm used to being alone again I'm not interisted in anything serious. I want to get out and experience some adventure, do things and go places and discover who I really am.

Oh and the needy thing... no thanks! I like Karens idea of an equal but seperate partner. Someday that is.