To answer your questions... I DB because I love my H, because despite my own screw-ups I still believe in marriage, and because now that I've gained knowledge on how relationships are supposed to work I believe we can have a great marriage.
All that said, my H is now a WAH, so I've been on both sides. I can understand why he left (well, the mentality anyway, the reasons I'm still not so sure of) and I can understand why he tried when I was a WAW. I've been where you ladies are and now I'm where your LBS' are. Must say, it sucks to be on other side. If I had an any idea how much I hurt my H when I was a WAW... let's just say that I'm still dealing with the guilt over that one.
I acted like I was some kind of "prize" he had to win over... ugh, I was no prize, I was a burden, I was a completely selfish B#*&@! But I've changed, thank God. Yet, he tried and tried and when I finally woke up he'd already given up! So now I'm dealing with how I treated him... what goes around comes around I guess. The sad part is he thinks his being a WAH is justified, that I "deserve it". Maybe's he's right. Well, maybe he's wrong... the old me did deserve it, the new me still deserves it too but I have changed and can make him happy in our marriage if he'd allow me the chance. <sigh> Pretty screwed up, huh? Anyways, that's all on my thread so I won't go into that here.
My corners... love, faith, hope, and forgiveness.
Love - we loved each other very much when we got married, we had it before, we can have it again, love is a choice.
Faith - without it I'd still be a WAW, wouldn't have made any changes, would have nothing to believe it. If both parties don't have faith in marriage and each other then it's hard to make it work.
Hope - hope that the bad times are just temporary, hope for our dreams, hope for our future, hope for a lifetime of wonderful times together. Without hope we just look at here and now and that's not commitment, not building a life together.
Forgiveness - forgiving the big stuff and little stuff. No one is perfect, no marriage or relationship is perfect.
I guess that's all for now, better get back to work.
