was just on the phone w/him, he is on MAJOR a-hole mode, started asking me what was my "disfunction", being very agressive,I really wanted to keep my cool and asked him to calm down, he kept asking me he didnt' see why it would make me unconfortable him storing stuff there despite the fact that I did tell him why, he was being just awful and raising his voice, so I calmly told him I couldnt' talk anymore and good bye.
He sent an angry txt saying how I might've as well get a f*cking lawyer that he was done talking to me, that "if you dont' want to fix things dont' talk to me " huh?
Anyways, I actually have seen how I have brought conflict into our talks, was fully intending to give in a bit more and he turns into the harpy from hell. Great.
I dont' think he'll actually drag this to court, but it makes me feel uncomfortable the way we ended the convo. I was reading this great book yesterday about conflict and it said something like "you wouldn't want to be in dissagreement with your sitter/day care, with people who will be taking care of your kids for half their life, then why would you have a bad R/communication line with your ex? That really stopped me in my tracks. I'm a green horn here, and I admit I was making things difficult because I was hurt and didnt' let my mind think smart. I do not want to be communicating with him at this awful level.
He has not called nor txt back, I txt back that we could talk when he calmed down, and that perhaps if he agreed to cut the lawn on the back yard where the shed is he could use it for 5 yrs, no reply either.
Great, now I feel unsettled.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
