I have asked her to go to MC but she refused. As I look back I did not notice her efforts to work on our marriage or her crys for help. I thought I was doing everything I could. I think we just did not understand the differences in our approach to working on our M. It was easy for the OM to listen to her b/c he has no children. With kids its hard to just sit down and talk and when someone else did thats where she put in her time.
She is good at hiding her feelings and keeps them very bottled up. I tryed to convince her to spend more time alone without kids but it never happened. I now know after reading alot of your stichs that I need to move on with my life without her. I lost touch with people I use to hang out with in order to help take care of the kids and the house. I guess thats was all I ended up with. I just hope it is not too late and I can get my life back and hopefully she comes with it.
We still live together and sleep in the same bed but I am thinking of moving to another room. Maybe that would be good for both of us. She has told me that sometimes she wished I would just leave but not all the time. By sleeping in seperate beds it may allow her to know what it would be like.
