That chip is only on their shoulder if you let them come back that way...don't you think?
Yes I do.
If they do come back without any remorse or understanding of the LBS's pain and are still in la la land or pretend to be in la la land then they are being somewhat manipulative.
I also believe that we the LBS tend to let too much slide in fear of upsetting the MLC'er.
I spose this is where boundaries come in, right?
I have noticed when you set your boundaries and stick to them the end result is far more favorable no matter what the outcome of your marriage.
Jack, you set your boundaries, stuck to them and your W was able to realize you meant business.
Whether or not the absent spouse realizes 20+ years from now they loved us, it's the here and now that are important. How we progress and move forward and still be able to show caring and undertanding to the wayward spouse without condoning hurtful interactions.
Hmmm...I should just turn this into one short sentence and say, perhaps we shouldn't take TOO much shiite in hopes of our spouses returning and set those damn boundaries and mean them. Make sense?
Sorry Ang if I went off topic. But it all sorta ties together.
When my journey down this path is finally over, I want to be able to move ahead without unresolved issues or better yet not have those unresolved issues haunt me.
Sorry....too much coffee
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
