WW is maintaining her NC, I THINK. I am doing my best to verify. As sad as it is, any glimmer of niceness, hope, a smile, laugh, not wearing sweat pants, using an exclamation point in an email, etc. drives me nuts. I automatically think something is up...Contact must have been made. Just have to remind myself to detach, detach, detach. 'Trust, but verify' as my friend says.
Interestingly, my WW is being pretty active about looking for a job. I think this is a good thing, but it makes you wonder.... Is she just getting ready for life on her own? Or trying to fill a void in her life, or do something so she doesn't have to constantly think about OM? Maybe this is a good question to ask in MC.
That's the part I have the hardest time with DMB. If I ever get to the point where she's actually TRYING to work on the marriage, I'll always be worried there are other motives. I've experienced those very things twice now and each time it was contact had been made. So now I'll be totally gun shy if she does start to respond to me. How sick is that? Deep down you like it better when she's pissy with you and looks like crap.
Keep it up. I'm glad you're feeling better. That will serve you well whatever the outcome.
Hope4Us.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
