Better late than never?

[MichelleLT]

"The only way you can help me is to let the D happen quietly"

I told her that's not what I want, but I won't stand in her way. She said it would be nice if I could ask my lawyer what her next step should be. She just has so much on her plate right now. WTF? Like what? She's not working, living with her parents, not doing a dang thing from what I can tell. She wants me to get legal advice so she can D me?

I got told by my H that it was MY fault we weren't D yet - because I wouldn't agree to a summary dissolution and was going to make him go to court, he was too broke to hire a lawyer, and he was too dumb to fill out the paperwork himself. LAMEST excuse in the entire world! It was just a manifestation of his anger and frustration.

It's easier to try and manipulate or guilt you into getting what she wants. She has this D planned out in her head, it's going to be easy and fix her life! But YOU are NOT cooperating! IMO, when she asks you to do things like that, just say no if you don't want the D. If she gets angry, oh well, she'll get over it.