You are not a pathetic nobody. Regardless of what he tells you, his actions are about himself, not about you. Nobody pushes anyone to do anything, we all have free will.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09