if anything treat her like an acquantaince, polite. And here comes a cliche "BE yourself", just relax and be nice. No longing looks, no expectations.
About gifts, perhaps downplay it a bit without ignoring it, a card for mothers day, a gift "from your daughter" on her bday, something neutral like that (I am almost legally separated, but still dont' want to ignore significant dates, will give him the latest portrait of our kids for his bday, and will have them decorate a mug with their drawings for dad's day).
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
