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[Mark1965]

Good Morning All,

UpDate from Last night:

Went onward to GYM. Without her.. Had hard a great work out - Sure reliefs stress..
I left GYM to go home and shower to meet G/F for dinner and G/F was already at my house. So we skipped dinner and had a wonderful chat and discussion about issues in our (R)..

Of course she into issues with me-

But look -right is right and wrong is wrong- As stated,we all realize that we our none -perfect-Whether they are either real or precieved -

Can we wear the shoe on the other foot..But it comes to the point whereby we admit our true weakness and improve or keep bad behavior..Decide if the precieved issues if not real in nature can be understood and understood by partner.If not then it would never go away and always be back and forth in bad (R)..

After truly listening to her and G/F TRULY listening to me and my side.

I feel great headway and progress was achieved.. Though still a long way to go ..

1)She admitted - If Shoe on other foot- She would have not only not like the idea of (OW) "friend" to confide in.. She would attacked that as I have and (OW)..

2)Though she was/is willing to tell me any details of EA.. I really do/don't want to know.. But asked her some broad stroke questions anyway..I do believe she sincerely answered my questions and is/was truthful..

3)She Loves me -With all her heart - Bonded to and through me as a friend and lover..

4)She belonged with me and belonged in my home and farm.. As our home..

5)Understands my feels of regaining trust.. It is work for her and US..

6)She agreed to counseling

7)Admitted Drinking is/has/seems to have become an issue.Not that we have problem -But we went from having a few drinks and enjoying each other to drinking to get drunk..That is the problem..

8)She said -I went from being man of our home,confident Leader of our home -To a wusse and non-challenging to her mentally and sexually.

9) She said -With those issues -How could she know -If I could provide and protect and achieve goals/future with me..

10)She admitted I had become a "NICE GUY" without boundaries.

11) She agreed that EA with(OM)MUST END..

12) She wants a life -Was feeling cheated as more un-confident I became.. Was having feelings of nearly a scorned woman-She knows I am more of a man than that, expects more than from me..Hense Scorned.. Interesting..

What do yall think..Please be painfully truthful..

PS: I feel like progress was made and believe it or not she giggled and laughed, cried and wanted to be intimate with me.Uhmm