Quoting charcoal: however, H's reactions are not just some innocuous car backfiring that I believe to be a bomb... they are, or were the actual war)
You are assuming there, hence bull headed... I see lots of barbs go back and forth between the 2 of you... Sometimes in a loving manner, you see what the other is saying about you, not to you...
Read between the lines of what each of you write... You each have a fourm that is like no other... Were nameless, faceless, people that have no emotional involvement in your sitch, takes everything you say and pick it apart...
Get past the surface insults, or slaps in the face's you each may feel the other is sending (on purpose or not) and see what needs that you each are not meeting in each other...
Thats what I mean by bull headed...
As well, you both are basicly fighting for the same thing... You are both on the same page, different books...
Maybe a pow wow like the clinton dole thing on 60 minutes might work... You each get to make a point and respond by counter point...
Once apon a time, my xw and I had a major fight. We used the email that we had. I would sit upstairs while she was down stairs typing out what she was mad a bout... She would come up stairs say "Im done!" and I would go down stairs, read, and respond.. After about 5 times of going up and down the steps, we started giggleing each time we passed each other..
A lot of points were spelled out, we fingered out we were arguing the same point... I forget excatly what the fight was about... I do remember the making up after it though!!!!
