Timing of the last child? Reminds me of something someone said to me shortly after the S. There are a number of transitions in life and marriage. We were moving from the time our kids needed our constant care (the youngest, S3 was out of diapers) and could be babysat for an evening by a responsible teen, allowing us to go out. We didn't make that transition - I had spent lots of time with my friends in the last few years and when she had her chance, when the kids were old enough to be left with someone, W did the same, we didn't spend any time together. Add to that W just turned 30 around the same time so there were lots of things conspiring against us.
Quote: i'm having a lot of sucess in not blaming H for the past in not taking it out on him today but taking him as he is today whatever the mood may be
So there's one day in...tomorrow's a new one. How do you guys do with 'acting-as-if'? People have sh***y days all the time - maybe your moods have nothing to do with each other lots of the time?
Quote: H's post makes me mad, right?
If they make you angry wouldn't be best to avoid them (somethng else LL recommended to him iirc)? Maybe you both need a place to blow of steam? Something I feel kinda sucks about these boards - I'd love to e-mail W the link just to show her we aren't the only ones going through this and that there *is* a way out if we want to find one. The problem is I'm positive she'd feel betrayed and hurt by some of the things I've written - and it wouldn't take too much reading to recognize our own sitch. You've got to be able to speak your mind here to benefit IMO - not pull your punches. I've said things here I didn't really mean - well I meant them at the time - but they didn't represent what I felt after having a little time to cool off and reflect on them. I would hate for her to read tht stuff and be hurt by it. Maybe you guys need to agree to stay out of each others threads? I myself don't know if I could do that tho - it would be awful tempting...
Have a great weekend - hope the weather is as nice there as it is here. It's a long weekend here and the weather is going to be gorgeous...wh00p!!
