He returned to the OW because he's still messed up inside and is not ready to do the hard work needed to heal your relationship.
Exactly! You did all the hard work. You healed or thought the marriage was healed. Now it's time for him to heal himself in order to heal the marriage, if this is the course it is supposed to take.
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It's time to let him go.
He needs to return completely of his own accord, and because he has finally gotten his head clear and straight.
He knows what he has at home. He knows who loves him unconditionally. He knows he has a problem. he knows he can fix it, if he wants to. You cannot fix it for him.
It's his turn.
I hope your feeling ok about this SF. Look at it as a positive step in the right direction.
Thinking of you,
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
