Quote: the waw's who (most anyway) who are so fully into the waw mindset do not come here and when they do...are soon chased away when asked the real questions they choose not to answer...they would not be looking for corners...they do not want to do the work...they are caught up in the emotional or non-rational side of things and think any other way is simply sad...
I'm constantly wondering about this aspect of the WAW (WAS?) - I've read a fair bit about how the LBS goes through these certain phases to eventually come out at detachment and acceptance. What about the WAW - do most ever 'wake up' from the pain and fog as see the marriage as something that could have been fixed if two people were committed to making it work? Do many come around to seeing it actually took two people to end up in a mess like this? Is there any predictible or common stages most WAWs go through? My W said many of the things I've heard of WAWs here 'Love you not *in* love with you', 'so tired of trying - it'll never work', 'you were never there for me', etc. Added to that she can hardly talk to me about out sitch. But lately there's been an ever-so-slight thawing and she's mentioned things like not knowing where to begin to work on 'us' - which is new and shows me that at least some thought has gone into working on the R. I can't help but think W will wake up someday and realize this wasn't and irreparable situation - is that something that happens often? It just seems, at least with my sitch, that after almost 7 months some of the sting and resentment is fading slightly and I can see a change in W - I'm wondering what it is. Oddly enough we've been married about 7 1/2 yrs - there's that 1 month/year of marriage for things to start to work thing I've read about here before. Anyway, not trying to highjack your thread Char - some of the comments just inspired these questions in me.
