the one thing you may find in common with most of the waw's who are here is that though at one point they walken in the shoes of a was...they eventually were the lbs and that is what led them here...
the waw's who (most anyway) who are so fully into the waw mindset do not come here and when they do...are soon chased away when asked the real questions they choose not to answer...they would not be looking for corners...they do not want to do the work...they are caught up in the emotional or non-rational side of things and think any other way is simply sad...
take the ow in my sit for example...she was headed toward waw when I first spoke to her...as time went on and the further into her fantasy world of emotions she got her talk changed...when she decided to become a waw (not a term she'd have any knowledge of as I never did give her dr) and I spoke to her about what m was really about her response was "that's sad" yes to a waw it would appear sad that m is about such things as companionship, family, health, financial well being, love, friendship etc and not just some tickle in your damn tummy when you hear the others voice...
but I digress...
sure I want those things too...but it's going to be a long road and for now I have to settle for working toward a friendship (I'm really enjoying learning how to make h laugh when it doesn't ivolve anything about the children) the family (I'm enjoying sitting back and letting h form a r with his son (and dd) that is all his own, the kids wont break if daddy does it his way)
it's a journey and though I'm terrified and often wonder if it would be better with someone else...as time goes by I am given more and more examples that it's pretty damn good here so why wonder "what if"
