I spent a lot of time with the W at kids sporting events this weekend. Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
I went out Saturday night and she was very interested in where I went and who I was with. It kind of weird. She said she didn't care if I dated anyone but I said I think you do. No answer to that one. She is really mixed up. Angry and depressed.
Now we are arguing about tax money allocation.
Lots of fun.
Big meeting with the Lawyers on Wednesday is causing a lot of nervousness in the house.
BT make sure you seem relaxed as best you can right now. tesion is a killer at this part. the more you relaxe she will be able to not be tence around you. or if she gets made smile at her like you know a secret she dosent know and just walk away. belive it or not i tried thast and for some reason it works!
All she wants to do is argue and it dosn't matter who is there and what we are arguing about. I try to stay as far away as possible when she starts and avoid it. Can't wait to talk to my Psyc about this today. We have the L's tomorrow. Sould be really fun. OUCH!
Shrink said he would only talk to her if she was interested in Reconsiliation. Plus she had tennis twice today. To busy to work on M. Off to the L tomorrow. Things are not good. She is miserable, angry, depressed, mean and I could go on and on. You can not even talk to her. She just does not want me around. I don't know what to do besides move forward with what she wants. I want her to be happy and I want to be happy. Right now our whole house is miserable. I just try to give her space and aviod her.
Any thoughts? Anyone?
Psyc meeting was great. I always feel great when I leave there. My confidence comes back right away. Her #1 goalis to distroy my confidence and make me miserable.
She can't destroy your confidence unless you let her do it, Tree. You have to make the choice to let your confidence decrease when she does certain things.
She also can't "make you miserable". You choose to be miserable, in the face of what she is doing and how she is acting.
See what I mean? It's a choice. Choose not to react or respond negatively.
Sometimes easier said than done, though, isn't it?
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Can't see there is much else you can do if she is in a state apart from what your doing which is not getting sucked in, but resisting getting sucked in is tiring. I found reading this everyday helps: http://www.kipling.org.uk/poems_if.htm
My W recently went for professional help and got diagnosed despressed, I not sure what finally made her get help. I think it's important though that they see it as a positive step. I think admitting you need help can make you feel like you've failed and so people fight it. So anyway you can paint your own experience with your Psyc in a postive way, so she doesn't see Psyc as someone against her or as someone to go to because she's failed, may help.
BT, believe me her number one goal is NOT to destroy your confidence and make you miserable, but that's how it feels! She is a mixed up, depressed lady going through probably the worst time in her life, you're just the whipping boy right now. She has no master plan to destroy your self esteem she's just lashing out so make yourself a lesser target whenever possible. Do whatever you can to keep yourself busy with positive things that will keep your spirits up, hard to do sometimes but do what you can. Chin up!
Tree, let us know how the lawyers go. Praying for you.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
