since he has been known to drink at parties and get sick from it, H has lectured him on alcohol abuse, believe it or not.
Yes I can believe it. My H has given similar lectures to my S15 (although not about alcohol he leaves that to me!). Its so sad that they can't see that they are exhibiting the same behaviour (although it does sound as if your H is at least partially admitting he has a problem)
If YRs H is anything to go by if your H cycles again it will get longer each time. If you can bear to go through this repeatedly I'm sure you know we are all here for you. If you can't we are still there.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15