This morning the school truancy team has visited (at my request). They had arranged to come for 9.30am and for once it was hard to keep S15 here until they arrived. Don't get me wrong he wasn't chomping at the bit to go but I had to be devious to keep him here. I don't feel good about that but this meeting was crucial to his future and I hope one day he will thank me for it.

H didn't turn up.

The guy who seemed to be in charge of the convo made it perfectly clear to S15 that if he persisted in playing truant he would fine H and I £500. Then he asked if H was around (presumbably b/c he wasn't at the meeting) and when I said no he doesn't live with us he told son that in that case he would fine me £500. I'm hoping that will be the shock he needs but on his way out the door to school he defiantly said 'that was clever of you to get yourself a £500 fine'. So who knows.

It did come out in the convo that he has a problem with one particular teacher (which he hadn't told me about) and so I have made an appointment to see her boss (as advised by the main truancy man).

When they had gone I phoned my L. She was just about to see clients so couldn't speak to me so I'm still no further forward with my decision.

Right now I just want to disappear.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15