Just caught up with your sitch... sounds like your W may be going through a MLC. I must say, I don't blame your kids for not wanting to contact your W. Difficult to understand a mother just upping and leaving them thousands of miles away. Could she not have waited 6 months until the next posting? After all, you all moved to Turkey for her sake!
You sound like you are handling things well. Keep it up!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim