She can't destroy your confidence unless you let her do it, Tree. You have to make the choice to let your confidence decrease when she does certain things.

She also can't "make you miserable". You choose to be miserable, in the face of what she is doing and how she is acting.

See what I mean? It's a choice. Choose not to react or respond negatively.

Sometimes easier said than done, though, isn't it?

Me: 54
Her: 50 and sexy as hell
M: 32yrs
T: 34yrs
Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection"
Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire"
She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08!
Everything's GREAT!