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[faithisbelieving]

Scott...

You're going to be OK.

FIB

[faithisbelieving]

PS...I know you don't get in here much anymore but I hope you keep in touch. I'd like to hear about your comeback..which will happen someday soon. Frank
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[EmtnRllrCstr]

Hello all my DB friends...I hope everyone is doing well. I guess here is another installment of how Scott doing.

Well today I signed the final divorce decree and since there is nolonger a reason for the final hearing that was called off too. Otherwise I would have been in court tomorrow to watch the end of my M. I guess either way it is now over. It was kind of strange reading through the final decree, but, with all that went on last year it really did not effect me like I thought it might. I guess now it is time to get busy living....

My girls are doing well. They are still adjusting and as of now it appears both my X and I are willing to do whatever it takes to make life as normal as possible for them. For that I am greatful. I think I have mentioned this before but this D has really seemed to rattle DD3. She seems to be more insecure now then even 6 months ago. She now sleeps in the bed with me when she is at the house. Since she is so young I really am not pushing her, just trying to make her comfortable and reaffirming that I will always be there for her and always be her Daddy.

D5 is doing great. She doing well in school. In fact her teacher told me if she did not know of the D she would have never suspected it. D5 still is always wanting to catch up with her friends when with me. Sometimes I just want to relax with them, but, she will ask me fifty times to go see different friends. But I am her link to what life was like. All her old friends parents have kept in contact with me and not my X. Hopefully overtime once everybody gets used to this D5 can see some of her friends while with X.

I'm still saddened for my girls and wish this all did not happen to them. It still kills me thinking of all that I now miss out of their daily lives. I am making the most out of the time that I have with them. I guess like they say... it is what it is.

Again I hope everyone is doing well.

Take Care,
Scott

[Michael Mc C]

I'm sorry to hear that it's been finalized. You have it right though, you need to start/continue living. It sounds like you're a great dad with every intention on making your girls' lives everything they can be.

Stay strong and keep moving forward for you and your daughters.

[NoCodeBlues]

God bless you, Scott, and your girls. You are a great dad, and your heart is in the right place.

Keep moving forward, that's my new motto.

[faithisbelieving]

Scott..glad to see that you came back to post. Acceptance is a good thing...once that it is clear that the other person has no desire to change things. You WILL be OK Scott. I will bet even money that you may look back and realize that this was better for YOU.

I've been with you for awhile and I know that you will make lemonade out of lemons. You ARE a good dad. I hope that, should your presence diminish here, you will keep in touch with me through time. Well, Scott, on to a new life. Get going.
Frank

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[Ellis]

Im so sorry - My divorce will be final in a few months - Im trying to move on for my daughter - It sounds like you are a wonderful father - unfortunately my H has gotten so caught up in his new life with the OW he barely sees her and never calls - its a sad situation - Keep doing the right thing with your girls - it really is wonderful to see there are such wonderful fathers out there who no matter what put their kids first - Im ashamed of my H that he would ever put anything before our D
Ellis

[faithisbelieving]

Checking in Scott. FIB

[EmtnRllrCstr]

FIB, good seeing you around.... I have been following your thread... you seem to be doing all that you can.. I hope for your children, your W, and you that the messy process of D goes as smooth as possible... Remember this while going through it... nobody wins....not all battles are worth winning... Focus on your children and take care of yourself.... You know how to contact me if you ever need to chat...

Update:

I guess I am keeping my pattern of not posting very often. Since I am now divorced I guess I really don't belong in this forum anymore. I guess I will move along once this one locks up on me.

As for me I am doing well. I think I have adjusted to being a single Dad... The thing about it is that I am constantly adjusting. One of the things that I slip up with the most is being extra sensitive to my girls. I believe that I am learning, but, I do know that I am doing all that I can.

This past weekend DD5 became DD6. I threw her a bowling party with all her friends. There was me and 15 kids and a lot of energy. Fun was had by all, but the most important thing is that I did not lose any kids. It is weird doing this type of stuff on my own, to pull something like this off in the past my X would have done most of the heavy lifting with help from me. Now it is all me.

DD6 is doing great in school. I just recieved her report card and the marks were stellar. It still amazes me how fast she is learning. She is now recieving recognition for being an accelerated reader for her grade...

DD3 is doing as well as anyone can expect. I think the D has still affected her the most. She now is at the stage of life where she prefers her Daddy.... Which I cannot complain about... This has really been more aparrent over the last few weeks. When my X has come by to pick up my girls, she runs off and hides. Once I find her she just says, "No mommy house..I stay at Daddy's house". I wish she didn't have to go.. I just grab her give her a big hug and kiss, then try and reassure her that I love her and I will miss her, but will see her soon.

Like I said as for me I am doing good. I am starting to get a little restless with my job and might be looking for a change. I have a couple good possibilities, but I need to weigh the pro's and con's of making a switch with my custody schedule. I haven't starting dating....though everyone is trying to set me up with someone....

I guess I should give you all an update about my X. She is still with Dr. Adultery.... He is now going to functions with my XIL's. So I guess I have been officially replaced.

That is it for now. I hope everyone is doing well.

Take Care and God Bless,
Scott

[Yoyowife]

Hi Scott,
I'm so glad that you posted and filled us in. Sounds like those DD's of your have daddy wrapped around their little finger and vice-versa you also have them wrapped around your little finger. You are doing such a tremendous job with your girls. I'm quite impressed, 15 kids at a bowling party, wow!!!!

Keep taking care of you and your girls. When the time is right for you to start dating again, some lucky woman will find out what a prize you are!

Hugs, Yoyo