Getting ready for bed. H called at 9:15. Was hoping S wasn't in bed already, but assumed he would be since it was late. Explained he was running late from going to his friend Doug's to pick up the livestock trailer--Doug was yammering to me in the background (he is one of those loveable-yet-irritatingly obnoxious/happy people).
Anyway I peeked in on S and he was awake (Bad Mommy put him to bed at 9, not 8:45 ). So he talked to H for a couple minutes.
S gave me the phone. H asked me a couple no-big-deal questions, or made random conversation--I honestly don't remember what we talked about...we talked all of 60 seconds. Then he said, Well I am still at Doug's (which is 90 min from his parents') so I better get going. I said thanks for calling S and hung up.
I felt bad we didn't talk but surprisingly not that bad. He could have hung up after S said goodbye. And he sounded pretty upbeat. Don't know if that is good or bad. But if he was all fired up to "dump" me I doubt he would sound that way. Ok, no more ali-analyzing (I totally stole that from Kalni!).
My mom actually asked me today if I would be mad if SHE called H??? She wants to leave him a message, not actually talk to him. Mom has known H since he was 14 years old, and we started dating when he was 18. She just wanted to tell him that she was thinking of him and wants him to know that he will always be welcome in our family regardless of past choices.
I don't know what to think about that. On one hand, I think it is nice. Because he has cheated on her daughter with 2 different women (3 if you count the one-nighter in Tokyo 8 yrs ago, I know it "counts" but is different to me than an ongoing affair). So I know H has a lot of guilt and does not want to "face" my family.
In fact, my dad told his dad back in November (our dads have known each other for 50 years, we live in a small town, remember?? ) that he wanted to kill H for hurting me. Actually, the weekend I found H in the hotel w/OW, our parents called EACH OTHER several times???
So last word H had from my family was that my dad wanted to kill him. But if my mom calls THIS week, I don't want him thinking I put her up to it, since I gave him this week as a time line. Anyway, I told her to hold off for now. I think it would be nice for H to know that he doesn't have to "hide" from my family, but I don't want to be seen as manipulative. I didn't ask my mom to call him, but he may see it that way.....
No more news. I will check in on my friends before I turn in...
). So he talked to H for a couple minutes. 
) that he wanted to kill H for hurting me. Actually, the weekend I found H in the hotel w/OW, our parents called EACH OTHER several times???
