For the anniversary I always suggest that you have a card or something "unromantic" on hand in case your W acknowledges the occasion but do not give it to her unless she gives you something.
As for the kids and the walking 5 minutes.. I know that I am also an overprotective parent so I wouldn't like that either. Actually, and not to be over the top or anything, but a couple of years ago in the metropolis I live in there was a young girl by the name of Holly Jones that walked her friend home from her house and was abducted on her short 3-5 minute walk back home.. so you can never be too cautious when it comes to that kind of thing. Just my $0.02.
I think it was your sitch (although I have a few that I try to keep up on) where right from the beginning of your posting your W had been making comments about all of you going to Disney World as a family even though you and she wouldn't be together.. Am I right that this was your case? It sounds to me like she is paving the way to have herself invited and hopefully paid for by commenting that you can't handle both children on your own. I would not respond to her at all with regards to her comments on Disney World.
