HM, ((( HUGS ))) to you. I'm not having a great night either... so I can relate to the depression.
You said before that less contact with him didn't seem to work but being more open and affectionate did seem to. I'd keep on doing it, at least for now. If you get to the point where you need a LRT, then maybe go dark on him, again. But for now, keep on letting him see the YOU he will lose if you don't R.
