Very sadly, a great friend of mine lost her partner of 15 years recently. He and his wife separated about 20 years, and I should stress that my friend had no part in the separation. But, he left EVERYTHING to his wife and children – and he really loved my friend. OK perhaps an aberration I thought, so I was discussing this with a mutual friend [male] who is the long time and loving partner partner of another close friend. His wife left him over 20 years ago for another man, and she died about 5 years ago.
I was expressing surprise at, let’s call him Pete’s decision, and Jack said, ‘Oh no, I loved my wife and was devastated when she died. I love her all my life, and I still do, I can totally understand why Pete did that’!
This happened to my aunt. She was married to her second husband (her first had died) for a long time, probably 20 years. He was divorced from his first wife (I was a kid at the time they met so I don;t know if there was any hanky panky involved or not).
Anyway - husband dies, my aunt finds out he left everything to his ex-wife and kids. My aunt had to move out of her house and into a trailer park for her declining years. And my aunt and he were happily married! She doted on him!
