Are the counselors right?-I should move on?

[peacetoday]

DBS
Im not sure but this is how I handle my H
it hasnt brought him home but he visits 4x a week and we interact often
I am friendly and kind not overly
I dont usually iniate conversations if he is at my house to see 2 kids, and he wants to talk he usually comes to me
if he is angry or distant that day, I resapect his place and usually dont push any contact
I would acknoledge her with a smile or wave and not iniate any other contact-no hugs
focus on other things at party as she will probably watch you
detach
let her come to you
if she doesnt let it go and dont approach her
if you are at party talk to other guests and stay busy
this I think will make her safe especially if you been pushy before
as for others giving advice
Many mean well
but only we can decide what we need to do for our M
many will encourage us to move on including, family, therapists. pastors friends ect
In Fact the only people to encourage our stand seem to be other standers- good luck
peace