You sound like you are taking good care of yourself emotionally and physically. It does help to hear that others find us attractive. As for your W, it doesn't sound like there's a lot you can do about it right now. If she insists on moving ahead with the D, you need to do that. You can't force her to stay married to her, and as you say, take a look at her and ask if you really want to be married to her in the state she is in. Probably not. It's one thing to want to help, but you probably can't do that either. She has to save herself, and that's on her timetable. I'm sorry that your only option appears to let her go. That sucks, for you wish things could be different. But in the end, we have to play the cards we are dealt. You are going to be fine.
