Hello Mr. MLC part quatro...

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MMB,

My comments to you were driven more on the way you behaved with the children. You do need to read, research information on Father's Rights. They are vicious individuals out there (just as there are with mother's) who teach men tatics on gaining not only custody of children, but alimony and child support. When you mentioned your husband wanting to meet in public area that sent up major red flags.


Now, on to your affair. I can't address your H's affair as he isn't the one posting. I am in your shoes. I walk them too. I have two children and a husband who has told me he hates me. Only YOURS seems sane while mine is bi-polar. Am I lonely? Hell yes. But I do want to repair my marriage and I don't see logically how that is possible when I have another person I am clinging on to.

You need to be comfortable with you before you even remotely consider another relationship. By jumping from one to another- clearly shows you don't like you. I stand by my opinion that a) you need to be with you for a min. of 2 years before you consider another relationship b) you will seek more value, you will be a better person, mother and wife if you would seek therapy from a professional on "why" you have this need to feel wanted/needed or "why" you have this need to feel desired right now. (it's totally natural to feel this way, but in order to repair your marriage- you have to decide what's more important.

In regards to your H. wanting bootie calls, I think you need to find more respect for yourself. Do you know he's practicing safe sex and or are you? I would personally find it insulting and degrading for my husband to have a woman and me be the "girlfriend". A therapist can help you gain more self respect for you.