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Well, no bombs, mini or otherwise since W returned home. She just is asking for me to pay for a few things from her trip, mostly funeral related. However, she is asking for me to pay for 1/2 of her rental car costs. (By asking I mean she writes it down on a piece of paper and expects me to leave her money.) She also has been going shopping for kids clothes recently and asking to be reimbursed for this. It is not the costs that bother me, but rather the fact that she never discusses in advance, just does it and then writes it on a list.

I am thinking about bringing this up and saying that in the future, I will not pay for things that she does not discuss with me in advance. Otherwise, she can pay for it from her earnings. (about 5% of mine since she only works part time and does not get paid so much per hour)

A good DB'er would ask oneself at this point..."will this bring me closer to my goals?" My goals vis a vis my W are to get out of this R as amicably as possible and while minimizing the impact on the kids, so that does not seem to help. I guess I need to refocus on some other, shorter term goals, like maybe...

...free my mind of all thoughts related to W.

or

...build a completely independent life from W.

or

????????????????

Quite a ramble this, but need to vent somewhere!

SD