my story adventures of a WAW!

[christarn]

Today I had my first coaching session since August, I feel very encouraged by what we talked about. We went over the 4 stages. She feels he and I somewhere between 1 and 2, she said he is showing signs of "control". So, she also gave me pointers in how to deal with those. As hard as it is, I need to start acting like a friend, not a wife, and put past memories away. Show him a "no strings attatched" friendship is ok...nothing more and nothing less. If there is no friendship there is no way to move onto a romantic type of involvement, so this is very important.

I am happy with how the session went. I learned new things, and somethings I was already doing she validated. She agreed that with our friends going thru a D, that my H and the other H hanging out together, was probably a "misery likes company" type of friendship. I told her about my H being at my local pubs a few weekends in a row, she agreed that he was trying to "accidently" run into me.

All in all good stuff. Now it is more of the same from my side...PATIENCE, and waiting!!

hugs to all
Christa