At this point, detatch, detatch, detatch. I just had a conversation much similar to this with my DB coach today. There are 4 stages to reconciling a M.... 1. defusing negative thoughts 2.friendship 3.romance 4. reconciling. I asked her things I could be doing to work on getting past stage one and moving us into stage 2. She said detatch, make him clearly understand that I have no expectations, and as of now...the past is the past. We must first repair our friendship before we can ever be anymore.

If you can, I reccommend a DB coach, mine has offered great advice. She offers insight into what my H's behaviors mean and why he may be feeling the way he does. It has so far been a good and valuable investment.

Read and re-read Michelle's books. They will really give you some good pointers.Gary Chapman also has some good reads as well as Dr Phil.

Take care
christarn

H-32
Me-29
T-10years
M-4yr (10/04)
Me- WAW 1/07
I filed for D 2/07
D put on hold 5/07
H re-files for D 9/08
WOW! trying MC 10/08

"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"