GF, you are so right! I don't think I was trying to make him feel guilty, but it really hurt to have him tell me ILY and be on his way to be with his OW, I don't have the ability to think that way, so its hard for me to reconcile it in my head that he can.

Bottom line, I want him to be with me because he wants to be there, not out of obligation or as a "consolation" prize. We have been friends for 20 years and no matter what, I value the friendship, so I need to start being a better "friend". You are too right about OW as well, because H told me the last time we were at DD game she texted him and he didn't get right back to her and she was pissy and saying things like, "I guess you and Corey were having to good a time for you to respond." and other stuff like that, so he is getting it from her and I just need to chill out and enjoy the time I have with him when I'm with him and not focus on the negative, but the positive. I forget that I am luckier than some, that we actually do spend time together and talk everyday.

Thanks for keeping me in check. Sometimes I get so caught up in the details that I lose sight of the big picture. I appreciate your help and trust your wisdom on this subject.

M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option