Question - Do you want your H to come back because he wants to? Or would you prefer him to come back out of guilt?

Corey, I am not perfect either, and I have to tell you that there were many times when I got p*ssed and also told my H to 'go to he**'. Why did I do that? My guess is because I wanted him to feel guilty about what he was doing, I wanted him to feel as crappy as I did. After times like this, H would act nicer to me, do things for me, but you know what? It was soooo very wrong of me to behave like that. Sounds like you, and very possibly OW as well, are doing this just as I did.

Bottom line, if you want to save your M, this behavior will not help you achieve your goal. Drop the drama and leave the past behind. Move on for YOURSELF. Treat your H the same way you would treat a good friend.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell