Maybe we are peace - ing our marriage together

[MAL]

Hi there!

I haven't seen you post in a while, and it's good to see you. I remember when your SAM was posting earlier in the year, and she stopped by my thread a couple times to offer support.

You guys had some tough times. I'm glad to see you are still working at it.

I've missed seeing you guys posting.

I happened to stop by this forum today, and I saw your post. I wish I could give you the "magic recipe" that will fix it all, but I don't have one. I wasn't successful in saving my own M. My D will be final in a few weeks.

However, I wanted to at least stop by, since it looked like you hadn't had any input.

I believe in M, and I always have. So, I would never suggest the D - only if the situation were extreme.

In your case, after I read your thread, I saw over and over again, how much you love your W.

You show admiration for her being a good mother. You talk about not wanting to lose her. You mention how a new person would have her own baggage.

Yes, you're considering D. But you're also considering making this M that you have the best that it can be -- despite all the crap that has happened.

I can only imagine how hard it must be to not have that trust anymore. And I can certainly relate to living out those crappy anniversaries....I have to deal with them too, and it hurts like heck...

Most of all, I can relate to the love that you still feel for her, even after all that has happened. That says a lot about you.

Okay, here is my honest input...
If you are coming here to piecing to ask for input
If you can write such nice things about your W

I don't think D is what you really want.

I think you are looking for a way to clear up all the thoughts and confusion running through your head.

I wish I knew how to help you with that, but maybe some of the other folks who are piecing their lives back together can.

I'll be back, okay? Take care and I hope you have a Blessed Christmas!