Wow....your H seems to be acting the same way as my H did when he left. Calls to the house and my cellphone, texts, even calls to family and/or in-laws whenever I didn't respond. He was always in a panic if I didn't immediately get back to him.

But you know what, Neecy? That was HIS problem - not mine. HE was the one who chose to leave. I didn't make him nor did I help him with that decision. I completely left it up to him although it wasn't what I wanted.

Your H wanted out. Now he needs to know just what that REALLY means. He needs to know it, and he needs to feel it.

You can be cordial, friendly, polite, whatever you want to call it with H, but you should NOT give in to him anymore, and as others have advised, DO NOT RESPOND TO MEANINGLESS CALLS/TEXTS.

Oh, and regarding your H telling you that 'everything will work out'.....My H ALWAYS said the same thing. I believe it was his way to manipulate the sitch, a way for him to control me. By telling me this (not showing), it was a way for him to keep me around. He knew I did not want a D, so if he gave me just enough crumbs, he knew I wouldn't go anywhere. This was his reassurance that he wanted. I honestly believe that my H didn't want to be with me, but he didn't want anyone else to have me either. Understand what I'm saying? He didn't want me to move on without him until HE was ready himself.

It was all about him, and he was acting very selfish. MIL and SIL both said this, and even H admitted it to me himself.

Take your D to the movies. If you'd like, and it is totally up to you, you can tell H that he is welcome to join the two of you, but after that, he needs to be on his way.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell