TG was bad, no doubt about it. But the kids enjoyed seeing their Grandparents and aunt. My FIL is real uptight and type a. At our old house he could get away by going to his room (our 4th bedroom) where I had a computer he could surf on as well as cable tv. At our new home, we don't have a 4th bedroom so he cannot escape. He doesn't get along with Sam's sis. Sam's sis invited herself over for the holiday and brought her girlfriend with her from Chicago.

She complained after her arrival that we should have been more prepared to have guests over. She didn't like haveing to squeeze around all of the boxes we still haven't unpacked. We had only been in the new house since Oct. 31.

They were also upset that they were unable to sleep in the bed we readied for them. They broke the damn thing when they got in it. You see, most beds aren't made to hold a quarter ton of weight! My SIL and her GF are rather large. So they broke the bed and didn't even apologize.

They got a hotel room. Thank God.

But what's worse, before leaving, my SIL pulled me aside to say she was worried about the children because of the way Sam feeds them or corrects them. She offered to take my son back to Chicago until I could get her "straightened out." Apparently, my wife only feeds our children Pop Tarts and candy; according to my SIL anyway.

She is nuts. My wife may not be a great wife, but she is a great mother. Our children are very well mannered and definitely get the proper foods. I have no idea where she came up with her summation. I do know that it was a holiday so the kids were a bit wound up and the Grandparents bought them candy. Big deal.

All in all, a rotten holiday, especially with all of the things running through my head. All of the things my wife said to me this time last year. All of the annaversaries of her little getaways keep coming to mind. I just don't know how much more I can take.

I am considering divorce, but I don't want to hurt the children in any way. I am considering divorce, but I still love my wife. I am considering divorce, but I know anyone else I meet is going to have her own baggage. I am considering divorce, but I know I cannot afford it. I am considering divorce, but I don't want to lose her.

I wish this @#$! never happened. Nothing from my previous post has changed. I just don't know what to feel or do and it is driving me nuts!