I have just read through your last few posts, Wow the S**T has really hit the fan for you. I know the feeling , there is a difference between suspecting and knowing and a real disapointment in putting all that energy in when this is the result. I also relate to the feeling of how much you could achieve together for your Boys and each other and the lost opportunities. My heart goes out to you having to deal with this stuff now.
OK now I am going to put a positive spin on this and as usual it will be simple.
Firstly while snooping is generaly not a good thing in this case I think its not so bad. At least you are fully informed and now know why your efforts have had no real results on the surface. While there is a A going on you are realy not going to get through to him. However in saying that he will be noticing you and the efforts you have made , just ignoring them for now.
This next bit is hard. Dont look back at could have, would have etc if you can. Just do the best you can in the current circumstances . This is old advice but focus on yourself and the Boys. Let him go. Then you have that figured out anyways
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Had a good session with my IC; 1st visit back with her in about 4 months...so i needed it. We talked a lot about self-care...really just GAL and PMA. THat's my assignment for next week...some short-term goal setting.
Here is the important bit. Accept that he will probably go . That may not be a bad thing long term. Now is the time to realy act as if , as your actions now and over the last few months will be the L most recent in your H's mind even if he trys not to see this.
If he leaves the Reality will not be what he is expecting .
I have to go to work now , back later , take care L
