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Sage, your list idea is exactly what I need to do, but I honestly am struggling with what to put on it. I don't know what I would be doing differently if I had forgiven her, I just know I would feel better somehow.
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But back to the list, Sage. What did you put on yours? I am in such a fog I simply cannot see what should be on my list.




Sad...just wanted you to know that I haven't been ignoring your post/question... TBH, the "list" idea just came to me when I was posting on your thread! So your query back to me about what's on MY list got me thinking...I'm still working on it and will post it...likely AFTER Sat. (1 year anniversary of DDAY).

One thing that I've realized for myself while thinking about this is that many of my "limiting actions" have been turned towards myself and MY life...in other words...SO MUCH of the residue of the A. has been in the way that I treat myself, feel about myself...my external actions towards h (with some notable exceptions which I detail!) are actually probably MORE positive than before the bomb.

Do you know what I mean?

I gotta run...will post more later!
Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.