Hope4us' Struggle, part 2

[Hope4us]

Thanks Pup, Kat.

Pup, I refuse to give her the time of day if she's ignoring my direct questions, or greetings. I just kind of snicker inside that it's unfrickinbelievable that she can be that way. I mean, she has done this and I don't care how bad she makes the marriage out to be before her affair (which is BS as anyone who knows us knows), nothing I've done deserves this, so I refuse to engage her.

Kat, I hear what you are saying, but I want to meet her needs for conversation if she's in THAT kind of mood, so I try to talk to her soon after I'm home and see if she's willing to talk. If not, I don't initiate anything after that. Maybe I should just not say a single word to her when I get home, but I just feel like that takes me down to her level and at this point, I really don't care to demean MYSELF any further by playing her little game. I know that sounds contridictory, but it makes sense to me.

This is a part of me that seriously wonders if she'll ever be able to give me what I need to heal in this marriage. Hopefully someone can tell me that when NC has been in place for a while she'll begin to see more clearly and she'll respond, but at this moment, I can see becoming the WAS VERY EASILY, if she doesn't start making the effort soon.