I think you are making a huge mistake. It is not the place the helps define you but what is inside, so going somewhere away from your family is NOT going to help you gain peace. Go on a long weekend if you must but I know the damage that has been done to my kids from their Dad walking out the door.
I'm not sure if Mo2C is still looking at the boards, so I will interject a little here...
I had suggested some time away as opposed to actually moving, and I do agree with you that it is not the place that defines who we are, but W sees this currently as the best option. Having said that, I am supporting her in that decision as best I can.
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My oldest doesn't care if he ever comes back. My H is/was a good person basically the made the most horrible choices and he will sadly pay the price right along side our kids. kat
It sounds like your situation was more abrupt / more absolute. Oddly enough, Mo2C is moving out with the family in mind. She is not walking out on us. She is not abandoning me or the kids. The kids will have equal time at both homes, and they are even excited about the situation at this point. It appears as though they see it as a bit of an adventure for now.
We are communicating very well on a daily basis, we are affectionate and even intimate. We have a night out planned for this coming Friday.
After I wrote that sentence I started thinking that things for us are better than most married couples I know. We get along so well we need to be apart?? There is just something missing for Mo2C and she needs this time away to find it if she can. I don't know if this will provide her with what she is looking for, but I plan on making the best of it. I don't know if this will ultimately end up with us being back together, but I do know there will be much learned in the coming year.
