I am positive that people knew about my W's A that I would have expected to tell me if they knew. Im sure SIL is one of them. I had a friend that saw my W and the possible OM (I say possible, because I dont actually know if he is the one or not) at a bar and it took him almost a month to come out and tell me. He is my brothers best friend and he called him first to see if my B thought he should tell me. My B even told him that he didnt know if he would do that or not. His reason was because he knew how much pain it would put me through. Well he told me anyway and yup, it hurt. He told me he saw my W kissing this guy (W still denies it). Well, eventhough Jethro seems to hold me in high regards for how well I have handled it, I was at a point at one time that I would loved to have kicked his butt. Still despise the man. If I had, I would be in your exact position right now. He is a lawyer, so I know I would have been sued. In all honesty, at the time, I wouldnt have cared. It would have been worth it, and to be honest again, I kind of still feel that way.
Anyway, Im rambling past my point. I agree with Jethro. Just like my B was unsure if I should know or not because it would hurt me, I am sure that the people you expected would have said something to you were thinking the same thing.
Hang in there my friend. You will make it thru this. Even if you have to give up every physical posession, you will still have each other, and it looks to me like SAM is right there with you, to hold each other thru this mess.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
