Quote: I know I've complained about this before and most responses were along the lines of, "Well, what did you expect them to do? Tell you?" Um, yes. Or at the very least force her to fess up.
You know, only two people (other than OM) knew about my W's infidelity. They were two girlfriends...both of which I'd kind of expect to tell me. Thing is, had they told me, it would have been a D. If it wasn't a D, then I'd have to go through what Floyd is going through now where his W hasn't yet come around...and given my mental state at the time, I don't think I could handle it with as much grace as he has/is. So, for me, it was just better that I didn't know. Mentally, I wasn't in a place where I could have accepted what she was doing. If I confronted her while in the throes of her A, then my anger would have likely driven her to bail. The time I didn't know gave me time to grow myself... This time also gave my W an opportunity to really think about what she was doing.
Perhaps try and look at it a different way, SBH. I know it bugs, but, if I was in their position, I would not have said anything knowing that I could be breaking up a family. You see?
