Quote: I really hate that part - being the oblivious unknowing spouse.
I'm still having trouble with that part myself. Her family knew what was going on before they visited us for Christmas. I know I've complained about this before and most responses were along the lines of, "Well, what did you expect them to do? Tell you?" Um, yes. Or at the very least force her to fess up. Her sister was excited because her always "perfect" older sister was doing something devious and out of character. She later apologized.
Her father shrugged his shoulders and looked away from me and said, "I know it's hard, what you're going through. Been there, done that."
Her mother's excuse was that finally, she thought (sam) was completely happy. She was estatic because her daughter was finally opening up to her and they were becoming closer. It didn't matter that her daughter was ruining her marriage.
The only person who tried to at least make sam stop and think about what she was doing was her lawyer. Imagine that: a lawyer with ethics. I am happy he planted the seeds of doubt in sam's mind. It took them a while to take root, long enough for a great deal more damage to be done, but they rooted nonetheless. I am happy they did.
Quote: listen to only what you have to....I'd imagine you will not be a part of the suit against w and that is the one that will involve details you'd rather not hear...so perhaps that is one you don't sit in on?
I hope you are right. But even if I don't sit in, I want her to feel as if she could tell me everything. I don't know if I can take it, that's all.
Quote: Thank GOD you two are pulling together as you'll need that and God's grace to see you through this difficult time. But I have NO DOUBT that you will get through this.
Thanks SB. I am glad to have her at my side while we navigate this course. I couldn't do it without her. I just wish we weren't taking this trip!
