The other question I have is am I right for not wanting a divorce and not accepting her position? Am I being selfish? I know that I want to stay married and keep our family together. (She tells me she doesnt have feelings for me).
any advice would be greatly appreciated. thanks
PC, You are not being selfish for wanting to keep your marriage together. If this is what you want, then you don't need to do anything at this point. If this is what she wants, let her be the one doing the work to file.
Have you read Michelles books? Go out and get Divorce Busters or Divorce Recovery.
Originally Posted By: Christarn
As hard as it is to see what she has done to your family, be patient. Don't push her or argue. Detatch, with love. As soon as my H stopped calling, begging, pleading...and detatched and started to GAL of his own...that is when I truly had time to reflect on my decision and look at what I had done. It was then I realized what a big fat mistake I had made.
Read what others have posted here. As Christan said above, very often it is the pulling back from the LBS that gives the WAS the time and space to really think about the situation and figure out if it is really the best choice.
Some more details would probably help others to provide advice, but I would say it is time to work on yourself for now. No reason to push for anything you don't want.
